Before you say,”Will you marry me?”, you need to be know the person’s financial life, their spiritual life, and their short-term and long-term goals. Why? Because if they are not aligned with yours, you are setting yourself up for strife and sadly yes, failure. The Bible tells in
2 Corinthians 6:14 – “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”
Many believers who fall in love with an unbeliever feel that they will “change” the unbeliever. They will win them over for Christ. Sadly, that does not happen. It is far more likely that the unbeliever will bring down the believer. Even if that doesn’t happen, the couple will most likely divorce.
Why, because each one you is pulling in opposite directions. You might want to pay down your debt and start using your Money Blueprint to plan to track your expenses and income. However, your unbelieving spouse might not want to do these things. Before you know it, you’ll be having money arguments. What about attending church and tithing? You might want to do those things, but again, the unbeliever does not want to do those things. This causes added stress and strife to your already argument-filled marriage.
The short and long-term goals might not seem like much. However, if you have a short-term goal of starting your emergency fund (remember, it’s only $1,000 to start) and your unbeliever’s short-term goal is to spend money on a new TV, new coat or what have you, then you’ll find yourselves at odds with each other.
The same applies to your long-term goals. If the two of you are not on the same page, you’ll each be pulling in a different direction that might eventually lead you to divorce. So before you say, “Will you” talk with your significant other and ensure that you are together spiritually and financially. If you’re not, walk away. It might be hard to do, but it will definitely save you from a pain and argument filled marriage.